Everyone says your a strong person

Every time I receive an email when people have found out that I have Breast Cancer. They always say your a strong person and you will get through this and nothing to worry about.
Well you know there is everything to worry about. I have no family here just my Husband and my two kids. My parents are back in the UK along with my other relatives, who are just as worried but they are there and I am here.
Does everyone think your strong because you don't show your feelings and prefer that people not just keep asking me how I am, or ask my Husband as If I cannot speak for myself. I'm not disabled, I am still working and running a very large company along with the help of my wonderful managers and business partners we just do what we do.
When I still had my hair I could go out and go to the Gym and work out because no one new I had Breast Cancer I could still be me, now when I go out people look (so I think) as I stand there in a hat which I would never wear so they are wondering why.
I don't follow fashion, I don't wear make-up and I don't dress to impress so how am I going to pull off wearing a wig...I have ordered one to see if I can handle it but ya know if I feel stupid I'm not going to wear it. People will just have to live with my G.I Jane look and get over it. I am very lucky that I work from home so I don't have to face the big wide world only when I have to go shopping and most of my business isn't done face to face.
I have been reading a forum base in the UK with people with Breast Cancer and its interesting to see how its handled in the UK, and I wonder if being the age that I am and if I was still in the UK would my lump have been found, operated on and chemo started. I never felt my lump and it was found during a mammogram. The treatment seems to be the same but the finding of the lump might have been another story. The only good think if I was in the UK I would still be covered by the NHS where as here I have to find the money by way of a Deductible in my Insurance coverage. 
I do sit here wondering if there is something I could do to make changes to the way you are told that you have a lump and what might or could happen. I have spoken to a few people that where told in the ugliest way  and in a very clinical way, whilst I realise there is no easy way to tell someone they have cancer there must be a more positive way of doing it. Even down to the leaflets you are given some of them are just mind blowing. 
My father read in the Daily Mail this past Saturday about Jennifer Saunders and her battle. I decided to look it up on the online Daily Mail and found it to be so right and a great piece or writing. I am posting the link here:  http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-1322482/Adrian-Edmondson-struggling-help-wife-Jennifer-Saunders-cancer.html
Well I hope I've not bored you too much and the spelling isn't too bad 
Have a good week